Practical Prayer: Prayer as a Two-Way Communication (Audiobook Transcript)
Chapter 3: Prayer as a Two-Way Communication
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I used to think of prayer as a monologue. It was a solitary moment where I poured out my heart and hoped for answers. But, Prayer is so much more. I've discovered that it's a dialogue, a shared exchange. Prayer has become a living conversation with the One who loves me more deeply than I can imagine. It’s not simply an outlet for my emotions and it's definitely not an “emotional crutch” to help me avoid reality. Rather, it’s a sacred space where I lay my troubles bare, then I wait and listen for God’s response, His whisper of guidance, or even His comforting silence. I'm learning to rest in His silence, knowing that He is always on time with His response.
In our earthly relationships, communication in a healthy relationship, is never one-sided. When we open up to loved ones about our struggles, they listen, respond, and often bring fresh perspectives. Likewise, God does not want us to approach prayer as though we’re simply speaking into a void. He longs to engage with us, to respond, to be involved in the dialogue of our lives. Scripture reminds us of this in Jeremiah 33 verse 3, where God declares, “Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.” This is not the promise of a distant deity but the voice of a loving Father, inviting us into a conversation meant to shape and guide us.
I have often found that when I bring a concern to God, a sense of clarity begins to emerge. It’s as though a gentle prompting arises in my spirit, nudging me toward a new understanding. God, I believe, speaks to each of us in ways we can understand, often through these inner thoughts and impressions, giving us wisdom for our lives.
Prayer becomes an exercise in thinking and feeling with God. When I speak to Him, it’s not unlike speaking to a friend who listens, who considers, and then offers something valuable in return. In conversation with close friends, we’re not only sharing our burdens but receiving their encouragement, advice, and strength. How much more, then, can we gain from speaking with our Heavenly Father, who knows the end from the beginning and wants what is best for us?
During the first year of my marriage, my husband and I had a bit of trouble finding our rhythm. One morning, I got up to cook breakfast while he was preparing for work. As I stood in the dining room setting out the breakfast dishes, I was suddenly hit with a flashback—something that had happened months earlier between us. I began to seethe with righteous anger as I remembered how critical and fault-finding he had been during a time when I needed his support and understanding. I had never told him how much his words had hurt me, and that morning, I was determined to give him a piece of my mind.
As he innocently showered upstairs, I mentally rehearsed exactly what I’d say. I told God, “I can’t let him get away with treating me like that! If I don’t speak up, he’ll never know. Now, Lord, help me find the right words so I’ll be clear and assertive.” But as I waited for God’s guidance, a surprising thought came instead: *Don’t say anything. Keep your mouth closed.*
“Excuse me, God? I must be misunderstanding you. Surely you don’t mean for me to just stay silent?” But the voice came again, firm but gentle. "Don’t say a word. Even if you have to bite your cheeks, say nothing. Trust me."
I knew it was the Lord speaking to me. Reluctantly, I agreed. “Fine,” I thought, swallowing hard. “But if you don’t handle this, I will.” What a way to talk to God! Have you ever argued back and forth with Him like that? I was lucky that lightning didn't strike me!
A few minutes later, my husband came downstairs, whistling and smiling. Most mornings he was usually quiet, but that day, he was unusually talkative. He didn’t seem to notice that his usually chatty wife was giving one-word responses through gritted teeth. As he ate with great enthusiasm, chatting between bites, my patience started to wear thin. “God,” I thought, “I’m waiting. When can I finally break this silence? My jaws are starting to ache.” I was *literally* biting my cheeks! But I kept hearing the Lord telling me to stay quiet.
Finally, I’d had enough. My husband was dense enough not to notice anything was wrong. He didn’t stop, put down his fork, and ask why I was unusually distant. “Lord, that’s it!” I thought. “I can’t wait until he miraculously figures out we have a problem. He’s not that observant!” I was just opening my mouth when, suddenly, my husband stopped eating. He put his fork down and looked straight at me.
“Hey,” he said, frowning. “You know what I just thought about?”
I shook my head.
“Remember a few months ago when…” He went on to describe, in perfect detail, the very event that had resurfaced in my mind that morning. I couldn’t believe it! He looked sincerely grieved and contrite. “I didn’t handle that situation well,” he said. “I should have stood up for you instead of criticizing you. I’m really sorry.”
I was speechless, completely stunned. All I could do was nod in acknowledgment. My husband finished his breakfast, grabbed his lunch, and went off to work, leaving me standing there in the middle of the dining room, dumbfounded. My eyes filled with tears, and I whispered my gratitude to the Lord.
This was my big “AH-HA” moment when I began to recognize prayer as a two-way conversation, not a monologue. God can handle my questions, my confusion, my doubts, and my anger. More than that, He welcomes them, and I treasure hearing from Him—through Bible readings, spiritual insights, impressions, and whatever other means He chooses to speak to me. I love our conversations.
In John 10 verse 27, Jesus tells us, “My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me.” What a remarkable thought—that the God of the universe speaks, and that we, His children, can recognize His voice. Just as a child learns to recognize a parent’s voice, we learn, over time, to hear the gentle leading of God in our lives. He might speak through scripture, through a sudden clarity in our thoughts, through the words of a friend, or even through the beauty of His creation. God’s voice is present, and as we lean into our prayer life, we grow more attuned to His guidance.
As we approach prayer as a conversation rather than a wish list, it becomes a space for growth, learning, and listening. It challenges us to pause, to listen, and to wait for His response, knowing that He desires to share His heart with us.
This relationship of two-way communication is something I have come to cherish. If I’m struggling with a particular issue, I bring it to God, not as a demand but as a heartfelt question: “Lord, how would You have me handle this?” And in those moments, God often responds by reminding me of a truth I’d forgotten or providing a sense of peace, assuring me of His presence.
This is why prayer, true prayer, requires both honesty and patience. In the quiet of prayer, we may not always receive the answers we want, but we receive the assurance of God’s presence. It reminds us that we are not walking alone, that our steps are guided, and that our concerns are heard by the One who holds all things in His hands.
As we lean into this relationship, our understanding of prayer grows. We begin to see it as an invitation to converse with God, to be open, vulnerable, and receptive. And as we listen, we begin to discern His voice, His direction, and His peace. This, I believe, is the essence of prayer: a two-way communion with the God who not only listens but speaks, who not only hears but responds. It is a relationship built on trust, on love, and on the beautiful, abiding presence of our Creator, who walks with us each step of the way.
When you pray, remember that God is there, not merely as a distant observer but as a close and loving Father, eager to guide, to comfort, and to speak. Let your prayers be a space of genuine conversation, where both you and God are present, engaged, and connected. Because that, truly, is what prayer was always meant to be.
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